I'm not Steve but I can tell you a couple ways to set it up on the A9II...
I'm going to assume you don't want any AF on the shutter. So then you will be making use of the AF-ON and AEL buttons.
AF-On can just be left as "AF-ON" and will be whatever your primary AF mode is set to. Usually I'd have this as Wide or Zone.
Then there are two ways you can go to get the alternative AF mode on the AEL. Usually I'd have that set to switch to Small Flex Spot or Expand Flex Spot but you can choose whatever one works for you.
Method 1: Using the Registered AF mode feature. Switch your main AF mode into the alternative one you want to recall on the AEL. Then long press the Fn button until a message pops up saying that it has Registered that mode. Then in the Custom Button assignments you want to set the AEL to "Registered Area + AF ON" or "Registered AF Area Toggle". Using the "+AFON" option will make that AEL button act just like an AF-ON button but use the alternative registered mode. Using the Toggle option will switch your mode into the alternative and then you'd use AF-ON to actually AF. You'd hit the toggle again to go back to your primary AF mode.
Method 2: Using Reg Custom Shoot Set. You'd assign the custom button for AEL to be "Recall Custom Hold (1, 2 or 3)". You'd setup your Custom Shoot Set (1, 2 or 3) and just tick off the AF-ON and the alternative AF mode. Leaving everything else unticked. Save that and then when you hold down AEL it will perform AF and use the alternative mode. Clearer instructions in the help guide link below:
Basically the method relies on switching to a more confined AF mode that can narrow down the "watch area". This allows you to target in on the desired subject if one of the wider AF areas like Zone or Wide is getting confused. It also helps if the AF system is not "seeing" a near, out of focus subject and continues to AF on the background. The smaller AF mode like Small or Expand Flex Spot will often "see" the near object and drive focus where the larger Zone or Wide wants to stay with the background.