I fear you misunderstand what I was trying to say. I totally agree with you about cropping in post being the same as cropping in camera.
What I was saying is that if you could fill the full frame camera with your subject if possible by having more focal length or by being closer then that would be better IQ than filling just the crop mode portion with your subject. You have more pixels on your subject and you have less noise and so better dynamic range. If you normalize the two images by downsizing the full frame to the same pixel dimensions as the crop (or vice versa) you get better IQ with the full frame.
Sorry...sometimes hard to decipher what people are intending to say (and I'm only on my second cup of coffee!). Resolution can be an interesting subject as it has so many meanings and there is so much confusion on the issue in many instances.