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Brian Kimball
DNG can be opened with a variety of software, although not Nikon as far as I know (just tried). However, the edits are instruction sets, so although a non-adobe program may be able to open the DNG, that doesn't mean the edits will follow. The only way to insure you have the edits is with Adobe software.
You can convert them to DNG via the catalog. Just select all (CMD/CRL + A) > Library > Convert Photo To DNG. You'll get some options, make sure "fast load data" is checked. You can embed your original RAW files in the DNG (huge files though), leave them alone, or delete them after conversion. If you want a set of images that are easily accessed when you're gone, full quality JEPGS are the best bet. They are the most universal. Plus, what are the chances someone would want to come in and edit your RAW files after you go? I certainly don't see it happening with my stuff. I think my family would just want the processed images, if they wanted any of it.
Also, keep in mind that when you edit your RAW file in Lightroom, you're basically working on a DNG version of the file. So, it's not like you're losing any data.
All that said, I still can't bring myself to convert. I get tempted like this from time to time, but I also have a bunch of other Tiffs and PSDs in the mix too (some that have minor Lightroom tweaks). So, I'll probably just keep relying on my numerous backups.
For me, the huge downside to DNG is that if you have to turn on "automatically write changes to XMP" in Lightroom Classic to get the benefit of storing your up-to-date editing and other metadata information with the file. However Lightroom won't actually write XMP sidecar files for DNGs. It will insert the XMP data into the DNG file itself every single time you make an edit. This may sound obvious and exactly like what you want.
However, unfortunately it instantly makes common backup solutions that maintain historical copies of files, like macOS' Time Machine, Carbon Copy Cloner, SuperDuper, etc all absolutely worthless for your image library because they will backup the whole file again, even if just a few bytes have changed. So literally every time you fiddle with a development slider or any library metadata they will see the file has changed and want to write an ENTIRE NEW COPY to your backups. Every single time! Lol this kills me.
Example: a D850 compressed raw is roughly... 50-60 MB. Let's say you finish a couple of days of shooting and have 1000 images. You import them into Lightroom and walk away for the evening. All your images get backed up. That's 55 GB of data. The next day you don't have a lot of time to edit but you do some quick keywording of those images. Guess what? All 1000 will get backed up again. 55 GB of additional data added to your backups, just for a KB or two of keywords. Then the next day you apply a develop preset to all the images. 55 GB of backups... again!
Of course there are other, more sophisticated backup tools that only backup differences in files. Both Backblaze and Crashplan do this to save bandwidth. But I don't know of any local disk-based backup solutions that operate like this.